A few days ago, I came across this article and posted it on my Facebook page. Within minutes, people began to weigh-in on what their thoughts were on the phenomenon of “purchasing” a particular gender to give birth to.
The article follows the paths of one particular woman. This woman had always dreamed of having a girl. After giving birth to her second boy, her third child was conceived using a special procedure that somehow sorts sperm based on which chromosome it carries. At fifteen weeks, she found out she was having a third boy. She “lay in bed and cried for weeks.” The couple discussed abortion, but decided to keep the baby and continued in her pregnancy. “In the meantime, she looked for a way to absolutely guarantee that her next child would be the daughter she had always dreamed about.” Once her third son was born, she started to make phone calls regarding a technique that would GUARANTEE the gender of her next child. You can read more about her journey in the article, but nearly four years and $40,000 (!!!!!!!!) later, Megan Simpson (not her real name) finally had the little girl she had always dreamed of.
When I saw this story on Families in the Loop’s page, I couldn’t help but comment and read the article along with its comments. As a mother to two boys and with a past history of three miscarriages, these stories made my heart hurt. With countless friends who have suffered their own miscarriages, infertility, secondary infertility, problems conceiving, thousands spent on treatments just to get pregnant, I couldn’t imagine being in a place with three healthy children spending my time and money obsessing over something I still didn’t have (and frankly, had little control over on my own).
My thoughts turned to her sons, especially number three. To find out at some time later that his mother considered abortion, simply because of his gender. That his sister was so desperately wanted, a family investment, and he was merely not the girl they had always anticipated and prayed for. I hate that we live in a culture that is always looking for the next best thing. That when life doesn’t give us what we want, we just find the monetary amount and pay for it.
What do you think? Should your child’s gender be something you can just pay for?