Let me give you some advice about your children/future children and their future. Encourage them in school, help them pursue their dreams, and guide them in the right direction. But please also understand that not every child (even if they are your own) is not created to be a college student. Some students just are not meant to go to college.
Somewhere along the line, we caught the bug of “There’s a college out there for everyone” or “You must get a degree in SOMEthing” and four years after the fact, students are jobless and laden with debt. We’ve tried to teach kids who hate school that four or five more years of schooling couldn’t hurt, but rather would help them in their future endeavors. We’ve watched kids struggle through years of schooling, yet tell them that in just a few more things will get better. That’s just not true. It gets harder.
Parents, don’t do your children a disservice by indoctrinating them at a young age that the only way to be successful in this life is by attending college. If you, your mother, your brother all attended college, that’s great, but it’s not for everyone.
Dear Charlie & Jack,
I’m writing this letter so that in twelve or thirteen years, when we begin to talk about the rest of your lives, that I’m reminded what I thought right now. I graduated from college and law school. Daddy graduated from college.
But I know that college isn’t for everyone. Don’t get me wrong – this is not a free pass to just not go. If you have the ability and that is the track you are on, we will support you, love you, and (probably) even fund your way through school. We will love and support you in the decisions you make, guiding you to make wise choices.
I love you!
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